Wait a minute...you get down??? YES, I get down at times, just because I'm a Health Coach that doesn't make me a superhuman. Life hits me full force in the face sometimes, just like all of you. What makes me get back on track and relatively quickly is what makes the difference. My bounce back time gets quicker each and every time I practice these 3 tips that I'm about to share with you and it's these tips and the central ROCK of my life - self-care - that makes all the difference.
Before I share these tips however, I'd like you to think for a minute about the challenges you've faced in your life and the fact that you're here to tell the story, therefore your success rate for getting through tough stuff is 100%. I didn't say it was easy, I didn't say you're not battered or bruised...but you're here today.
The key thing to remember is that we only get to control one thing in our lives, and that's us. So understanding that life is always going to get in way, stress is always going to come at us from a number of different directions, it's imperative that we create a game plan for how we're going to handle it. That being said..these are my 3 go-to tips when I'm feeling down.
1. Look at what you're eating. My guess is, that if you're going through something challenging then you're having a hard time making nourishing food choices, right? In fact, it tends to be the opposite, that's when we reach for sugar laden cookies, comfort foods (often what mum made - like we're trying to get a virtual hug!) wine, cheesy things or fried foods.
What we're actually trying to do is numb ourselves to the sensation that we're feeling. So we STUFF it down, literally with food! Emotional eating is something that just about everyone on the planet can relate to and that's why it's #1 on my list. So, how do we change it? First, try to really think about what you're feeling and where it's coming from...I like to use this F.L.A.B. acronym:
F - frustrated
L - lonely
A - angry
B - bored
Honor your feelings, they matter!!! YOU MATTER!!!
Then start to nourish yourself with healthier choices, they will help switch your brain from that emotional eating place to a more logical place and you'll start to be able to breathe and see the light.
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2. Move your body. This was a tough change for me, as someone that was an athlete and personal trainer for many years, my go to was to sweat it out! Then, after a life altering car accident and 5 herniated discs I had to rethink what movement meant to me. Sometimes less is more.
I'm still discovering different things that work and am recently doing ELDOA a spine decompression workout, that my good friend and colleague Stacey Stone has introduced to my life and even more recently the wondrous QiGong.
The key...ask your body what it needs...if you're stressed, chances are that your body is tight and holding onto emotions, would you benefit more from something like QiGong that gets your Qi flowing and helps you feel unstuck? Or a yoga class that focuses on breathing and chest opening? Just because you've always moved in a certain way, doesn't mean that's all you can do. Your body will thank you for your kindness and understanding with a sense of well-being and decreasing inflammation.
3. Find Support. The first place to look is within yourself. Are you being kind? Are you nurturing yourself? Or are you beating yourself up? We are all our own worst critic, an unfortunate human characteristic, but you can also make a shift to becoming your inner champion.
Firstly, don't beat yourself up for something you haven't learned yet. Going through life, doesn't mean that we automatically have all the tools to deal with whatever comes our way. I certainly didn't have them when I had my car accident, I had to learn new ways to do MANY things. Keep in mind that we're always striving for PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION.
Secondly, reach out, ask for help. Do you have a friend or family member who's non-judgmental and will give you what you need? If not, let me fill the gap. I help people everyday who are overwhelmed by life, are feeling stuck and don't know how to set up their self-care routine so that the system is in place when they need it. I offer a free, no obligation 30-min strategy session to see which of my programs and which level of support is right for you and your needs.
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I hope that you find my 3 tips useful, they are my go to when things aren't going great and it's this system that gets me back on track each and every time life comes my way.