Calling all single moms, including those whose kids are grown! (Old habits die hard!)
Which hat are you wearing today?
Or should I ask, how many hats are you wearing today??
It’s a reality and one I can absolutely relate to, whether you have the support from the other parent or not. As a single parent we adopt this syndrome that I call “Superhero Syndrome”. We feel like we have to do it all, and guess what, for most of us, we actually do, do it all. If you're not a single mom, but know one, please feel free to forward this blog.
My children were 11 and 13 when I went through my divorce, heading into some challenging years for any parent, years when the kids are going to test their boundaries, and for us as parents to let them know just how far they can go.
During the years that followed, my focus was totally on my kids, making sure that they were unconditionally loved, felt safe and secure. Always knowing that they would have a roof over their heads, food on the table and clothes on their backs. I worked hard constantly to make sure that I was successful in doing that for them and I’ll NEVER regret it.
Add to that, being at every after school event, every game making sure that they felt supported constantly. Trust me, I wanted to be there, no one was twisting my arm. However, there is cost that I and many other single moms pay for doing that. The cost to me, along with being totally exhausted, was that I lost “me” along the way. Completely, totally, utterly lost me.
The truth be told, I don’t know that I’d ever really found myself even prior to that. I certainly had never lived authentically! I was always authentic with others but not with myself! I always paid more attention to pleasing others, making sure that they were happy and trying to live up to their expectations than listening to what my gut was telling me or figuring out what I really wanted or what made me happy. Can you relate...?
I was on that hamster wheel of life, just putting one foot in front of the other, never considering the fact that I could step off.
Fast forward 13 years…after MANY other major life transitions…
Here I am today...
living on the island of St. Croix in the US Virgin Islands. Living with 100% authenticity, with peace and joy EVERY single day! With my thriving Health Coaching practice I get to live my passion every day and that’s to help you step off that hamster wheel of life and watch you soar too.
Together we can create the life you’re craving and although you probably don’t even know what that looks like yet, with all of the tools I’ve learned we will get there together!
I've created a group, a Personal Renewal Group (PRG) , just for you...just for single moms, because unless you've been through it it's really hard to understand what it can feel like. My goal is to create our tribe, so feel free to invite other single moms...
Simple...you deserve it!!!
Oh, and by the way, when we take care of our own wellbeing, guess what behavior you're teaching your kids? Yep, that they deserve to take care of themselves too!!
As a care giver it's hard to keep giving when we're running on empty...come on, it's time to fill up your tank, so that you can continue to be the best parent that you're striving to be.
I understand that sometimes it's hard to commit, especially when we aren't in the habit of making ourselves the focus. If you have ANY questions or concerns about the group, please don't hesitate to shoot me an email. Let's make 2017, your year!!
Above all, don't be shy, if your gut is telling you "WOW, I really wish I could do this, BUT..." reach out today. Life is short, let's get you to a place to enjoy it as soon as we can.
Above all else, please know that no matter where you are in life, you're not alone. There is always support somewhere. One of the many lessons that I had to learn was to ask for help and to trust that when I asked in the right places, I received it unconditionally.
If you'd like to learn more about the Personal Renewal Group (PRG) click here.
If you'd like to explore working one on one with me and would like to do a FREE Consultation click here.