One of the questions I ask my clients and one that often stumps them is “What brings you joy”?
Sounds simple, right? The answer I hear most frequently is “spending time with or doing something with....my kids, my husband, my family, my friends”.
Now, let me re-phrase the question…”What brings YOU joy, excluding anybody else?" Not so easy!!
As women, we have a tendency to deflect away from ourselves ALL the time. For example, if the kids have been dragging their feet all day and you have a whole bunch of errands to run…it ruins your day and you become stressed. If hubby had a bad day at work and comes home and vents…you do everything you can to make him feel better, but you take on his stress too.
Invariably your whole day is focused on what everyone else needs and if their energy is off or negative in some way, you take on the responsibility to “fix” it. We always think “what can I do to make them feel better?” Sound familiar?
Trust me, I know how it feels because I’ve been there and done that too! As women it’s in our DNA to nurture others and it’s not something I look to change in myself or anyone else, but what is necessary for a healthy, vibrant life is finding that balance of helping others but also nurturing ourselves.
One of the many ways we can do that is by injecting a little bit of joy into our everyday life. Think of how powerful this one single task is. If you know what brings you joy and you don’t need anyone else to implement those things, you can choose at any moment to bring joy into your day. So if you’re having a crappy day, YOU have the power to turn it around. Changing your stress level, balancing out your mood and showing the universe that you care about yourself, by just one simple act of bringing yourself joy.
I’d like you all to take a few minutes and start the thought process of what brings you joy, don't forget the important twist...it's only to involve you and feel free to share in the comments below…you may just inspire someone to feel joy in a way they hadn’t yet thought of.
To get the ball rolling here are a few of mine (my list keeps growing!!LOL):
~ Time in nature and even more specifically for me, around water. I’ve known for a long time, how much I LOVE to be in nature. My heart rate slows, I breathe deeper, my body relaxes and my mind calms down. Not only is it necessary for my health and wellbeing, but I find myself smiling…you know the kind of smile that affects your whole face, not just your lips? It totally brings me joy, especially to be around, on or under the water!
~ A cup of tea and a great book. Well, the tea thing could definitely be a reminder of my English roots and connecting me to that feeling of home. But I feel like it’s almost the sense of decadence to take time in my busy day to sit in a cozy chair with my tea and a great book that brings me joy. In fact I just started reading “The Universe Has Your Back” by Gabby Bernstein and it’s tempting to sit and read all day!!!
~ Fresh flowers. I don’t mean an expensive bouquet or anything formal, for me at least. It’s the feeling of walking into a room, seeing those cute flowers in that small vase/jug, some tulips in the spring or my favorite Gerbera Daisies will always bring a massive smile to my face and joy to my heart. Take a look in your garden or your local farmers market for something that brings a smile to your face.
~ Music. When was the last time you turned on your favorite tunes and just danced around the room not caring who’s watching? Music ignites my soul…lifts my spirits when I’m down and carries me higher when I’m feeling great. I make a point of bringing joy into my life every day in this conscious way.
As you can see most of the things that bring me joy are free and to me that’s an important factor because I want to be able to inject that bit of joy at ANY time EVERY SINGLE DAY, but then there are a few exceptions that I’d also like to share that are worth every penny…
~ Pampering. Whether it’s a mani-pedi, a new haircut or a fantastic massage. I urge you though to not just go through the motions…be present, understand and be grateful for these treats that might bring you joy.
If you’re in the NJ area, check out my client Ellen at Perfectly Kneaded Massage in Glen Rock, she’s offering specials for Mother’s Day and is a pre-natal specialist for you almost new mums. Click HERE for more info.
~ What you’re wearing. Dress every day to bring yourself joy. I know for me I’m always drawn to color and pattern in my clothes, even more so since moving to the US Virgin Islands!! I’ve even noticed recently that my jewelry choices are changing…I was recently introduced to the wonderful Anne Woodman, a beautiful woman inside and out and she designs (Happy) jewelry that brings me so much joy!
Check out the pic above of one of my latest earring additions (available in a whole bunch of great colors for summer) , makes me smile and everyone around me smile every time I wear them.
Anne has graciously offered a 10% discount from her beautiful line, she works in both silver and gold, just use the PROMO CODE: KARIN . SHOP HERE
What are you going to do today to inject a little joy into your life? Don't forget to share with us in the comments below...I'm always looking for new ways to experience joy.